There are some things in life we
just do not like to talk about. And
often we get reminded that certain subjects are not appropriate for “polite
company.” But if we do not speak about
them, then how do we grow? If we don’t
speak about them, then falsehoods and misinformation abounds.
Today’s gospel and epistle readings
are just such topics. These are not
really pleasant things to talk about, especially in front of congregation of
people, and a diverse congregation at that!
But I am going to press on here and hope that I don’t irreparably offend
anyone. I will probably offend someone
along the way, but that is bound to happen.
I guess it is better to offend someone and get the topic open than to
never ever bring it up because we want to be nice.
The topic I want to discuss is
prejudice.
It is really kind of fun to read
the commentaries about today’s gospel reading.
People do so many mental gymnastics to try to take the sting out of
Jesus’ words to the Syropheonetian woman.
There are attempts to make it into a series of jokes. (Ha ha, you dog!) There are attempts to say that the “dog” that
Jesus is talking about is a lap dog like a Yorkie or something. (Which is still offensive, in my
opinion.) And still others who say that
Jesus was rude to make a point. (To make
a point at the expense of a grieving mother is just wrong!) We cannot get around the point that Jesus
does something very un-Jesuslike.
What we need to remember is that
prejudice is not a new thing; it is as old as people. In Jesus’ time, gentiles were considered on a
par with dogs. To be Jewish during
Biblical times was to consider oneself on a higher level than non-Jews. It was just the way things were; it was just
part of society. And I am guessing it
was not something people questioned much.
Who are the people we consider
below us? This is a difficult question
to ask and an even more difficult one to answer. I am sure we like to think of ourselves as
kind and loving people. We do not want
to consider that we might lift ourselves to a higher level than others. However much we would like to think we are
above prejudice, we all have our biases.
I will admit that I am prejudice toward Caucasian people. Being born white and spending most of my
formative years around white people has instilled prejudices in me. I am prejudice toward intellectuals. I have spent many years in college and have
grown quite accustomed to people with advanced degrees. I am prejudiced toward the middle class and
toward moderate Christians. Guess how I grew
up? That’s right! I grew up in a middle class, Christian,
home. The things that surround us become
the things that are accepted and become the prejudices that we really need to
work to uncover.
For the sake of argument, since
Jesus was fully human while being fully God, we can assume that Jesus also had
some prejudices. Jesus, being part of
his society, made assumptions about situations.
And like us, these assumptions may not have been entirely accurate. Now this may be making some people uncomfortable. We do not like to think about Jesus having
human foibles. But in seeing Jesus work
through one of these foibles, we can learn how we may grow in faith and learn
to deal with others around us.
You will notice again, that the
interaction with the woman occurs face-to-face.
Jesus must confront the person, she is standing right there. With the woman standing there, Jesus must put
a face and a story to the prejudice he is feeling. He can’t just call her a gentile dog and move
on. She is there, she has a story, and
she has a request.
Our prejudices thrive when we
isolate ourselves from the object of that prejudice. It is easy to think that a transgender person
is just a man in a dress, or that Republicans are just old white men. It is easy to think that black people are
lazy or that gay people are all effeminate.
It is easy to think that Muslims
are all terrorists or that Christians are judgmental bigots. I sure we can come up with more
stereotypes. If there is a group of
people out there, there is a stereotype for them. And as long as we don’t ever have to come
face-to-face with these groups, we don’t ever need to challenge our prejudices.
I think another danger is the
assumption that we don’t have prejudices.
One woman in one of my past congregations said to me concerning gay
people, “Most people are not like me. I
have no problem with them…but they better not want to come here and change
everything.” She did not catch it within
herself. In her mind, she was totally
open and accepting of THEM. But also,
the people she spoke of would always be THEM.
When the Woman started talking to
Jesus, he thought of her as THEM. And if
she would have walked away, Jesus may have continued to think of her as
THEM. But the Woman continued and her
persistence helped Jesus to see that the distinction he was making between the
Jews and the Gentiles was an arbitrary distinction. At the core, we are all
people who need to rely on each other to make it through life.
A trend that you hopefully noticed
over the past weeks is the trend toward relationships. So often we think that all we need to do is
throw money at situations and they will get better. But Jesus invites us into relationship. Jesus calls us together, to sit down
together, to talk together, to listen.
Jesus calls us into diversity, not to impose our beliefs on others, but
to learn from each other; Jesus does not force the woman to become a Jew before
helping her. He is reminded of her
humanity and therefore changes his mind and helps her. (This is the only place in the gospels where
Jesus changes his mind!)
I think it is wonderful that you
are reaching out into the community.
Having meals for the local people is a great thing! But it is just the beginning! Going to Haiti
is a great thing! All of these things
are wonderful! But this is not the place
stop. I have seen congregations hang
their whole outreach on a Thanksgiving Dinner; it is a good place to start, but
we are continually called to reach out into our community. How else do we get to know people, face-to-face? How do we move beyond thinking of another as
THEM instead of as one of US?
We are called to look beyond our
prejudices. We are called to honestly
face judgments and stop making excuses for the ways we belittle others. Jesus gives us the tools to look beyond our
preconceived notions and truly opens our eyes.
We may be uncomfortable with Jesus’ actions in this reading. We may not like what he does. But this needs to remind us of our own
actions and should make us just as uncomfortable. In the end, all are still called to the table
and all are welcomed by Christ. But how
about us, Christ’s hands and heart in the world. Are we willing to accept all in the same way?
1 comment:
Excellent points. If we are not aware of our own prejudices we cannot make the conscious choice to move past them; or at least recognize the way they alter our perceptions. The way I most often recognize hidden prejudices in myself is when I am surprised by people I don't know. The surprise may be pleasant or unpleasant but it arises because they've communicated something that is different from my expectation. Why did I have any specific expectation of a stranger? For me that is a good place to look.
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