I am still dealing with the "damned if you do and damned if you don't" dilemma: Of course there is the parents' birthdays. There is something about going to my sisters wooded acreage for a picnic. This sounds nice other than the fact that this is the sister that told me to quit being a child and that I never connect with my family. Just what I want to do is spend all day with them drinking and whooping it up and knowing that my sister thinks I am immature, spoiled and self-centered. Sounds like a great was to celebrate some birthdays.
Then there is my nephew/godson's wedding. Again, if we don't show up, we are jerks, but we get to drive two days to the wedding to just sit there and not interact with anyone.