tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22402209.post1374129508572057081..comments2023-10-28T04:45:40.173-04:00Comments on Dr. Benton Quest: Why We Think The Worst...BentonQuesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09007300481037924684noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22402209.post-37264394709705652512010-09-04T10:59:59.153-04:002010-09-04T10:59:59.153-04:00It is Saturday AM - I can't seem to leave comm...It is Saturday AM - I can't seem to leave comments on your newest entries !Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22402209.post-84054657202161902532010-09-03T06:52:31.844-04:002010-09-03T06:52:31.844-04:00As we both (and others know) you are correct in yo...As we both (and others know) you are correct in your assessment that this issue is worse in congregations than it is among "the children of this world" and it should never be.<br />How do we stop it? I do not have the instant cure all pill. I do not think we can stop in others, we can only curb it in ourselves and attempt to live in such a way that others will see that such a way is better.<br />I think we curb it in ourselves when we are a) finally honest with ourselves (see ourselves warts and all) and b) truly understand the wonder of Grace (that we and all people are accepted [warts and all] by a loving God). My take is that the issue is worse in congregations because despite the rhetoric we never really get to point "b". We may get to point "a" but in order to compensate for what we see, we've got to declare all others as idiots instead of see ourselves and others as the "miracles of Grace" that we are.Lemuelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15397995062492531171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22402209.post-52932122274318185342010-09-02T23:59:07.746-04:002010-09-02T23:59:07.746-04:00I always try to leave a comment whenever I read a ...I always try to leave a comment whenever I read a blog.<br /><br /> Assuming the worst of another I daresay is in our genetics.<br /><br />You may like this - <br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l7AWnfFRc7g&feature=channelUr-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22402209.post-13778553509924185562010-09-02T18:40:23.004-04:002010-09-02T18:40:23.004-04:00Sounds to me like just another way to put people i...Sounds to me like just another way to put people in the 'them' category. If they make the effort to prove themselves 'us'-worthy (I love making up words!) we may decide to consider the whole person. If not, 'they' are idiots, inferior to 'us.' In the modern world, I think distraction is an aggravating factor. 'We' are just so busy, and overwhelmed with stimuli, that we don't have the time or inclination to find out if a 'them' is really an 'us' under the surface. And if our own state of mind is currently negative, we're likely to project that negativity onto THEM. It's one of the downsides of a large, integrated (no, I don't mean race or culture) society, as opposed to a small, isolated one. We tolerate all kinds of idiocy in people close to us, BECAUSE we know them so well, and they are part of 'us.' Wouldn't it be great if we all chose LOGICAL reasons to delineate 'us' and 'them,' instead of whatever emotional whim is handy? Oh God, I'm rambling again! You just HAD to ask, didn't you? <br /><br />Hugs to you...suzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07599102235797825599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22402209.post-42417049326715968692010-09-02T12:15:35.209-04:002010-09-02T12:15:35.209-04:00"It also becomes a circle. We frame someones..."It also becomes a circle. We frame someones actions as hostile and act coolly toward the person; the person feels the coldness and instinctively backs away; we now have "proof" that the person is "hostile" and feel that our thoughts have been justified."<br /><br />A lot of people fall into this trap, including myself. Other bloggers do to. This is a MUST READ -- http://nofo.blogspot.com/2010/08/pop-quiz.html<br /><br />You comments about idiots relate to me the most because I am one. An idiot. An unsophisticated cad. I try hard to hide it, doing everything in my power to convince people otherwise, but eventually the truth is revealed. If people assume from the onset that I am an idiot and don't even give me the chance to pretend I'm not, then I'm totally doomed. What can be done?Cubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12659801291785890663noreply@blogger.com